• Life Lessons

    Feeling “Unaccomplished” at 25

    Growing up in an asian household as the eldest daughter is tough. The immense pressure to perform well in everything was real. Growing up, I never cut myself some slack. I managed to graduate college and I thought that everything would somehow get itself sorted from there. I was so wrong.  Here I am, at 25, feeling like I have gotten nowhere. Working for four years in corporate, I had no savings, no house of my own, and no car. I was busting my brains out thinking how on earth did some of my batchmates accomplish most of that? Looking back on the last four years, rummaging through everything I…

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    When Life isn’t What You Expected After Graduating

    Growing up, I thought that after I had finished college, everything will fall into place. I wanted to work as early as I could. While I was studying, I wanted every year to pass quickly. I thought that graduating would immediately turn my life around. I was not prepared for how I would feel after I had a taste of adulthood. I did well at school. There was a system I can count on. If I study and work hard, I will get results. It was that simple. After I had finished my studies, I immediately applied for a job and got accepted. I thought the journey ends there. I…

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    How Gratitude Transformed My Life

    I do not believe in band aid solutions. It takes a lot of courage and effort to get out of our dark days. I have been in phases where I can’t even think of a reason to keep going. I was once doubtful and had no idea if anything matters at all. Don’t get me wrong, despite having said all of that, this is not meant to be a grim blog post. Instead, it’s the opposite. I want to talk about something that painted color to my gray skies. Gratitude changed my life. It transformed my mindset in so many ways possible. I was a pessimist before and I always…

  • How Perfectionism Holds You Back
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    How Perfectionism Holds You Back

    I once considered myself a perfectionist and it robbed and drained my joy. As someone with a Virgo sun placement, one of my natural tendencies is to overcheck everything and make sure that it’s perfect. However, as years went by, I realized how unhappy and uncontended I am. There seems to be an endless list of things to improve. I was never good enough for myself. I delayed starting anything because it’s not “polished” and “perfect” enough. This desire for perfection became my worst enemy.  After all, what’s “perfect”? No matter how amazing something is, there will always be a room for improvement. No matter how good you are in…

  • Why Set Goals?
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    Why You Should Define Your Goals

    “What do you want to achieve in life?”  “How do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 30 years?” If you have a clear picture in your head about how you want your future to look, you are already ahead. Most of us don’t even have a concrete game plan for the next week, or even the next day. We have vague goals in our head.  “I want to be happy.” “I want to be successful.” Knowing this is not enough. Clearly defining our goals can be one of the biggest steps we can take to move forward and get closer to our dream life. Defining our goals, really…

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    7 things I wish I can tell to my 18 year old self

    If we can all just go back in time and knock some sense off to our younger selves, wouldn’t we all take the chance? I may not be considered “too old” but there are a lot of things I think I could’ve done better if I knew these things.  1. “You cannot please everyone.” I know that we all tried to make everyone around us happy at some point of our lives. Sometimes, we sacrifice some parts of ourselves to be available for others. After all, we want to keep our friends and be there when they need us. However, in the process, we may end up neglecting the one…